IT’S CUFFING SEASON SO…..

….Of course I have something to say about it. Okay here we go.

 

So once again it’s that time of the year where some ladies drop their last name, wave their families goodbye at a lavish party and then leave by nightfall to start anew with the guy whose last name they now bear and look forward to making and raising tiny little people who carry both their DNAs. In case I lost you am talking about marriage, weddings and babies. We clear now? OK lets keep it rolling. Don’t know about your country but in mine December is a major season for weddings and billion other celebrations. Some people are literally booked for events everyday till the end of the holiday. Yup,that’s how crazy this season can get. Well, lets forget all those other billion events and focus on ”cuffing” shall we?. “The wedding ring is the smallest handcuff ever made. Choose your cellmate wisely because you both are in for life”. With that in mind, I want to address both singles and newly cuffed people in this article.

So first of all if you are getting hitched, CONGRATULATIONS! That’s a big bold step and requires you to overcome all your fears about life and its unsure nature and just trust completely in love and your partner.You have, so drink to that champ! Now lets talk business. I’m not married so don’t know a whole lot about what you are to expect once this new life begins but well here a few things i think you should take note of

Don’t get caught up in the wedding and forget about the marriage.

I’ll like to quote my mum on this one. She always says ” Everyone will gather, eat, drink, dance and be happy for you but when the night falls , the lights  go out, the  music stops and everyone goes home. That’s when the wedding ends, and the marriage begins.” That celebration is just a day, your marriage is the rest of your life. Don’t be too focused on one and forget the other.

Enjoy Your Day, You cant control every thing.

You are getting cuffed with someone who makes you feel alive and happy. That is all the reason you need to have a good time and enjoy your day. I know it can get so stressful with planning and making sure everything is perfect but you know what, a little ‘crappyness’ always makes a great story later. You will laugh later about how you flipped when the caterer was running late or when your little niece broke a tray of glasses. Dance, laugh and be happy with your friends and family. Moments like this will become rare once you have a family of your own to cater for.

Marriage is a union of three people; You,your spouse and God.

You know all those aunties and uncles from the village or abroad or God knows where? Yea, their opinions don’t really count in your marriage. All those friends, cousins, and in fact your entire family tree have no control over a union that God has blessed. You have a problem with your partner talk it out with him/her, pray about it and seek professional help and counseling if need be. Unless you are maybe in an abusive situation you can tell someone or reach out for help. Others suggest you talk to other people and maybe seek advice in times of crisis. Well I say talk to a professional, because trust me even your bestie has their own bestie and that’s exactly how your private affairs become public knowledge.

OK, we get it. You’re Married.

On behalf of all the single ladies …. hahahahaha I will like to remind married ladies that your not better than any other woman because you no longer bear your dads last name.And contrary to popular belief, some ladies are actually OK with being unmarried. Yes we know it has its perks and all that but just some people are actually OK that way. And some are still searching and waiting on God so when on your wedding day a lady says congratulations to you, no need to reply saying, “Don’t worry hun, your time will come”. Duuuuuuhhhh!!! I Know already. My time will come. So,I beg sister just reply “Thank You” and lets all just get along.

……And Now to the Spinsters and Bachelors.

Well to the single population I just have a couple of things I’ll like to say to you all in light of the cuffing season.

Please, Do Not Crash Any Wedding For Whatever Reason!

Don’t mean to sound like a broken record and please I know the struggle is real….. very real and if your annoying aunt ask you one more time when you are getting married you will snap but sweetie, that’s no excuse to crash every wedding around you hoping to hook up with a potential husband or wife. Sister! Brother! trust me that moment when you will be held up at the entrance by some huge looking guard because you don’t have an Invitation, even your potential husband/wife will laugh and pass you by because that scene won’t be pretty for you and nobody wants the number of the girl or guy who was held up at the entrance for crashing the party. We don’t want that to be you now do we?

Relax and enjoy your life, you both will get there OR the right one will find you.

You don’t have to drag your boyfriend or girlfriend to every wedding to make them see firsthand that your friends are getting married and your still waiting for them to look towards the altar. Marriage is forever and that’s a long time. You need to pray and do not rush love or life. Marry for the right reasons, marry your best friend, marry someone whose ideas you will like to see in your kids, marry for love because every other thing like beauty and wealth fades but real love changeth not. (hehehhehe my inner voice is yelling”preach On Pastor Love”). Not saying its OK for a guy to keep a relationship for 5 years and more with no sign of the aisle. Oga, na PhD of Character Supervision you want? But am saying that if there is progress from you both and effort towards that direction then don’t rush it, let love run its slow but deep course and you both will get there. Here is what i believe; if you love someone and if it is meant to be, though it may take some time and little hurdles too, but you will do whatever it takes to be with that person. You will be patient, understanding and kind so that in the end You will say “It was all worth it”. So in the meantime, enjoy your relationship, laugh often and worry not, Your last name will change when God sees that you are strong enough to handle marriage and build a home.

Like I said am no counselor or specialist, just a young observant lady who likes to share her thoughts with amazing people like you. Am particularly excited this cuffing season because for the first time am going to be a bridesmaid and also for the first time a maid of honor.So am really looking forward to this experience and who knows next cuffing season I partake in, I just might be the bride. hahahahahahaha … I see my friends reading this and rolling their eyes but yes, i said it. HAHAHAHA!!But Darling, till then I’m living, laughing, learning, and loving life and I highly recommend you do the same. You.Yes You!!!

Love. Samy.

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Fashion meets Music,Film.#Ratu International Festival

     Here is a fact; everyone gets butterflies in their tummy and never forgets their first anything. First love, first kiss, first …(eehhemm clears throat) well you know what, first baby and the list of examples is endless. In the same “first craze” light, the First Edition of The Ratu International Festival was indeed  an unforgettable event. The three day festival which celebrates music, fashion and film in the motherland Cameroon began on December 4th with the workshop and screening of movies and music. Local artist  Nabcis together with other artists performed at this workshop which took place at the StarLand Hotel Douala.

    Cameroonian cinema was also an item on the workshop agenda so the movies submitted for the festival were screened during this workshop. Cameroonian and Indonesian film gurus made up the film jury panel. Shortlisted designers  were also evaluated during the workshop by Miss Indonesia 2015 and Miss Brazil 2014 who were part of the fashion jury.

   Saturday 5th December was the main event and with a venue as amazing as l’Atruim Douala, verily verily i say to you, the soiree was nothing short of class and splendor. Breathtaking decor, one of a kind type runway, excellent cuisine and a wide range of very expensive liquor.

         The Bosses and “Bossettes” of Fashion, entertainment , business in Cameroon, Indonesia and other parts of the world graced the event with their presence.

           Traditional dances opened up the evening followed by a word of welcome from the Boss Lady and mega mind of the Ratu International Festival Mrs.Ratu Erma Olierhoek. Cameroon Veteran footballer Roger Miller also offered a word to the invitees.

Canal 2 International did a live stream of the event and other huge media organs like CNN Indonesia were aptly represented.The runway was then set on fire by the feisty models showing the designs of Nuvi, Sandi Dynamics, Jamel Ousman, Rita Eboh and uhhhmm I think that’s about all of them and if i omitted a name I sure was sipping something really amazing or was receiving huge gift bags from sponsors and got lost when this last designers name was mentioned but promise ill find it and update this post as soon as i can. hahahahaha! but am sure that’s the whole designer squad though!

Then it was time to recognize the best in music ,fashion and movie. The cash price of 300,000Cfa  was handed to the best designer , Mr Nuvi for  beautiful collection that fuse African and Indonesian culture and fabric. Rita Eboh got 200k for the second place.

The Best movie was awarded to the movie Nightfall by Anaboh Derick. Best movie Runner ups, 19th Hour and U-Turn also got cash prices. Afro Group Africa took home the award for best music group and Joseph Masoma got second place. Musical performances entertained the guest between runway shows and the Founder of the R.I.F designs, Belcro’s Designs by Ratu Erma  were the last designs to grace the runway. The unique collection represents Indonesian fashion and style with a touch of ‘African’. The festival came to a close with a big word of appreciation from the boss lady and her entire team.

First impressions never lie or die, so i bet you agree with me that the Ratu Festival first edition was a huge success and i don’t know how one can top that but knowing the hard working Ratu Team I am quiet convinced that next year the festival will be breath taking and bigger! So what you missed out this year? (ok,no lie sha you missed out on alot hihihihi) but u have next year to have your own R.I.F experience! See you there . #SpreadTheLove #KmerGoingPlaces #BePartOfTheRevolution.

KMER CANON LORDS!!!

Today we celebrate the amazing photographers behind the bold and beautiful pictures that flood the Cameroonian scene and social media. Personally, I am so glad that the stereotype often attached to photographers and photography as being  “just a pass time”, “a mean job” and even “a mediocre and cheap way to make small money” has become a thing of the past in Cameroon.

Photography like music and film in the country has experienced a rebirth and has been redefined over time. I applaud photography as an art in the way the pictures tell a story. As a science, in the way every ray of light has a role to play in perfecting the final picture and as a practical skill with regards to the talent of the man behind the camera.The common adage “a picture is worth a thousand words” is indeed true and so far Cameroonian Photographers have perfected the art of communicating feelings, emotions, culture, mood and what have you in their amazing photos. I picked my six favorite photographers in Cameroon for this article; hope you agree with me on this selection.

She is Chantal Eddie. A female photographer who prides herself in  elegant and quality pictures that portray true beauty and celebrates womanhood. She is a canon Queen;A well deserving one at that.

 

Meet Penjo Baba! All hail the “Baba” of wedding photography and video coverage. Ever since he introduced his work, weddings have a new touch of class and grandeur. Elegant,different and beautiful, Penjo Photography captures the most important day in your life and freezes time and emotion forever.

 

Meet Kelly Blaise Achu! Based in the South West region where the entertainment industry is booming, he sure is the “it”guy.He has a different and interesting angle to artistic photography and he also captures the epic moments in his wedding photos.

 

Meet William Nsai! He has creative shots and one of the most fascinating under water shots too. He has worked with several models and artist and besides photography he directs videos too. Young, energetic and a killer mind for fine photography, William Nsai is indeed a Cameroonian Treasure. Continue reading