I call it the UMS (Unhappily Married Syndrome). This is a disease that affects some married men. The best part is their wives rarely know they have it, but their side chicks who believe they are the cure to this illness know everything about it: from diagnosis, to symptoms, to prescriptions and what have you.
Most often people complain about being in an unhappy marriage. More often than not, married men who can’t stay married always find a way to get some girl to believe that she is his peace and will be his wife once he’s done with the “mami for this pikin dem”. Well, that’s often an unending lie,filled with false hope. Babe, men adore the women who bear them kids. Yes, he might not love her anymore but women are known to endure unhappiness better than men . If he doesn’t feel happy he is most likely to leave but still care for his family like he is supposed to. So if he ain’t leaving now, what makes you think he will tommorow ?
Men like these always have an excuse for every family vacay or romantic pic you see of him and wifey. “ohh it was for the kids” “I have to cajol her then drop her nice and easy” “babe, it’s just a picture. You and I know the real story”. Real story nkeh? Well, news flash!! That is what it is boo. Ain’t no faking or whatever he’s trying to make you believe . Contrary to popular belief, men know what they got at home and even if they say they will, they rarely leave their families behind.
Ever noticed how it’s never the right time for a Mr. to leave his Mrs.??🙄🙄🤔 It must be super tiring for his side chick I guess! Excuses like “I can’t leave her now, She just lost her mom”. “We still have lots of financial projects together”. “Our kids are so young, they won’t understand. I need more time”. And my favorite is “Are you crazy? She’s pregnant I can’t leave now”. Shebi you said you never touch her?🤔🙄Well now you see my point? It’s never the right time to say goodbye for the UMS man. I mean aren’t you tired? Move on girl, you will never know what awaits you till you do. Matter of fact, if he has a ring,don’t get close,Biko!
So let’s say he actually leaves his wife for you! 🤔(OK let me dream with you for a bit.) What happens when you become his wife? What makes you think he won’t get UMS all over again? And what happens when you become somebody’s wife in future? Shebi u no di fear karma? I shall shy for you o Anti! Imagine for a bit that was you and ponder over that! Smh!
I know some people are comfortable dating married guys with supposed issues or no issues at all, well I respect that choice. Don’t agree but respect it. Unno these grandsoeurs who might be so busy making cash and don’t have time for real relationship drama n all dat? Well they OK with the married guys; They get the juice and the wifey gets the drama of the UMS man and the triangle works OK for them! Well this post ain’t for you but you could learn a thing or two if you choose to! This post is for the young girl who nurses hope and builds her life around somebody’s man based on some vague truths he told her; Watching your life go by while someone else build theirs??! Anti, recieve sense IJN!! Respect someone’s vows now so tommorow, someone else will respect yours! Sounds like a nice plan right? Well woman helep woman afterall! Did I already say this is just my opinion on this matter? Well, it is!
C’est Toujours moi,